Self-love, why it’s important
In the world we live in today, there is more bad floating around than good. Let’s be honest, people tend to focus on the “bad” in a flash, often forgetting to appreciate the good. Sharing their poor service online, negative world news in the media, self-deprecating talk, gossip.
However, they love sharing how picture-perfect their lives are online – you’ve probably heard how depression rates have spiralled since social media has become part of our daily lives. I am one of the worst when it comes to that, comparing myself to others on Instagram. I’m not skinny enough. I’m single and lonely. I don’t have a family of my own. I don’t live in a gigantic, fancy house or drive a BMW. They have more followers than me.
I need to STOP!
Self-love isn’t all about bubble baths and pedicures. It’s about genuinely putting in the effort to prioritise yourself and focus on the positive, wonderful parts of what makes you YOU.
So here are 5 ways I decided to love myself this past Valentine’s week. I would love for you to share yours in the comments below!
1. I did a wardrobe clean out
If you follow me on Instagram you will know that when I went to the UK for December and January I decided to AirBnB my house. The preparation for this far exceeded my expectations.
I had to pack every personal item away meaning my entire wardrobe (including cupboards and drawers) and bathroom cupboard had to be sorted and packed away. My office resembled a garbage dump site (except with pretty clothes, shoes and bags as opposed to actual rubbish).
So when I got home last Sunday my mission was to go through it all and decide what still “sparked joy” for me. Yup, I Marie Kondo’ed it! Some of my clothes I have had for over 10 years, I still have clubbing dresses from when I was 22 which I totally cannot pull off anymore!
It’s so relieving letting go of clutter, and donating it feels good too. Happy heart, happy mind.
2. I treated my bestie to a Valentine’s present
One of my love languages is “receiving gifts”, not in that I like to receive them myself, but that I LOVE to give them!
My bestie went through a tough time with her partner recently and was staying with me last week. So I surprised her with a Ficus Ginseng potted plant, a Lemon Swirl Cheesecake Sundae each and a bottle of Simonsig Pinot Noir Rosé to share from Woolies. Pinot Noir is a little joke for us, if you’ve watched Titus’ perform the song on Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt then you know!
Seeing her happy face when I walked through the door and yelled “SUPPLIES” (i.e. surprise) made me so happy!
3. I met my new housemate
So I decided that whilst I love living home alone I am just getting too lonely working from home (having no interaction with colleagues) and then being home alone at night too!
A friend of a friend happens to follow me on Instagram and asked if I was looking for someone. I thought “why not?” She came to see my place in the flesh last week and is moving in in the next few days. She’s lovely and I think she’ll be great company and comfort for when I am feeling lonely.
4. I got my hair and nails done
Did I have the money to do so? Not really. Did it need to be done? Hell yeah!
My regrowth was quite horrendous considering I haven’t dyed my hair since I went red in September! It’s way too pricey to get your hair done in the UK when you earn Rands so I just bought the Bleach London Rose Shampoo and Conditioner to make it last as long as possible. It was time, however, so I popped on over the Lois Foss Behind the Scissors in Umhlanga to have my hair done and visited my fave nail tech, Bex from Nail Cult, whilst I was at it. How handy is it that you discovered your ultimate nail tech at your hairdresser??
I’ve gone a little pinker this time, do you like it?
5. I didn’t get that McDonald’s Cheeseburger
Again, if you follow me on Instagram Stories then you may have seen that I was craving a McDonald’s Cheeseburger when I walked passed the restaurant in Gateway last week. I am very proud to say that I resisted the urge and chose a healthy meal at home instead.
I am really getting back onto the health train. I am eating well, taking my supplements from Live Smart in Hillcrest(the most important one being my vitamin B that gets depleted with stress), and I have a 10km run on Sunday! Wish me luck 😉
Whilst enjoying the Christmas season with my dad and sister we totally overindulged on pub food and sugar. It was fun at the time and I don’t regret it, but my skin broke out and I put on a couple extra kilos. I am excited to continue with my healthy journey!
So there we have it! A few examples of self-love practices I enjoyed last week. Any suggestions for fellow readers?